20 Things I’ve Learned in 20 years

Hey fashion babes!

You may have noticed that I have been a little MIA the last few weeks. I had a family emergency come up and had to put the blog on the back burner for a minute. But during my disappearance I had a birthday. I am no longer a teenager! Looking back I realized that I have learned a thing or two in my two decades on earth and I thought I would share them with you guys!

1.) Say yes more!

I use to be one to always say “no” unless I had weeks notice. But I have learned that it is ok to be spontaneous and to create as many memories as you can!

2.) Eat. The. Donut.

Girl, the world aint gonna end if you indulge every now and then

3.) …But also exercise regularly (and listen to your body)

Too much of anything can be a bad thing. Its all about finding that perfect balance of donuts and cardio

4.) It’s okay to cut toxic people out of your life.

At the end of the day, no matter who else has come and gone, you are left with you. You need to put yourself first and if that means leaving certain people behind that is okay!

5.) Never (ever) take your true friends for granted

I honestly do not know where I would be without these people in my life. These are the people who you never have to question if they are on their side, because they believe in you even when you don’t believe in yourself.

6.) Retail therapy actually works

I mean don’t max out your credit card or anything crazy, but picking out a cute new top can be a great stress reliever and a good way to #treatyoself

7.) Invest time in the things that make you happy

For me this is blogging. Writing is very therapeutic for me so I try super hard to always find time in my hectic schedule to write.

8.) Using a physical planner/agenda is a game changer

Something about physically writing your “to-do’s” down on paper is so much more effective than just having a memo in your phone.

9.) Befriend people who are different than you

College has allowed me to meet people of all different backgrounds and I think this is so important in growing as a person. You don’t want your whole circle to be people who have had the same exact experiences as you. By diversifying your inner circle you can learn more about people while sharing your unique experiences with others as well!

10.) It’s ok to not be ok

Social media can trick us into thinking that every person is always living their best life. And this is simply not true. It is ok to not be happy all of the time. It is ok to feel sad, mad, lost, and confused. It is ok to not be ok. Always take care of yourself and what you need emotionally and mentally.

11.) Invest in quality makeup/ skin care

’nuff said

12.) Never dim your light to let someone else shine brighter

like I previously said ya gotta put yourself first. Of course their are times when you need to let others take center stage and have their moments, but never let someone diminish your worth so that they can feel richer about themselves. Because you are priceless!

13.) Sometimes all ya need is to vent to your best friend 

FaceTime is a game changer. I have vented to a friend that was in a different country and thousands of miles away and venting still made me feel better!

14.) It feels great to make someone else smile 

I don’t think this one needs an explanation.

15.) Don’t be afraid to make the first move

Whether it’s romantically or just in a friendship do not be afraid to talk (or flirt) first. Of course their is the ever-haunting fear of rejection and I’m not gonna say that you will never get rejected, because everyone has been there. Buuuuttt I have also made some great memories and friendships by striking up the convo first

16.) Stay true to you

I have developed a “I’ll do me and you do you” philosophy. Even though I am a 20 year old college girl I don’t drink or party (gasp) (and it’s fine if you do-just not my thing). As I went through high school and into college there is always pressure to ‘join the party’ (hehe see what I did there), but the party scene just isn’t me. Never change who you are to impress others-it is just not worth it.

17.) Take as many pictures as you can

As a millennial stereotype it might be I love photography and taking pictures. I think it is great to have amazing memories frozen in time. I understand the importance of living in the moment, but I think you can appreciate what’s happening around you and snap some shots so those joyous moments live on forever.

18.) Never go to bed angry

As eerie as it is to think about we are not promised anything. You never know what will happen tomorrow so never let a loved one or friend walk away without them knowing that you love and appreciate them.

19.) The small things are really the big things 

Mall trips with your mom. Coffee with your best friend. Movie date with your S.O. Beach trip with your fam.

Take all of these moments in and never let them go.

All of the little moments in life add up to all the things that actually matter. Because when it comes down to it- finals or that big interview won’t even compare to the giggles and love shared with the people that mean the most to you.

20.) Don’t take ANYTHING for granted

Similar to number the last two never take your life how it is today for granted. Tomorrow can sneak up on you and turn your life on it’s head in a matter of moments. If/When that happens remember to keep up looking for the sunshine no matter how dark the storm clouds get.

‘Till Next Time fashion babes

xoxo,

Carly

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